How many is good?
Great question Dianne.
Here's my mantra:
The more sibs you adopt at once the better the adjustment process can be. But.....two is the hardest, three is fight time but OK. If I was to adopt...four is the king. My experience is that larger sib groups that come home to you bring their own family system with them. In addition to your work in creating attachments between yourself and each child you benefit from the group who have brought you their own system. Its that system that you will at first be relating to. Later, as the system begins to trust you, you will be able to develop those individual attachments. Some children have told me, later - as adults, that they were so amazed their parents welcomed the larger sib group at all that trust came much easier than it ever had before. So my guess is that this board will be right behind you!
Graham
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Creator of the original Special Needs Adoption Board
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