[amyfk]

Dear Erin,

I just wanted to say that I am so sorry that your dream of adopting from China most likely won't come to pass. It's always hard when we have a dream and then it falls through.

I dont want to sound like miss platitude but my dad always said when one door closes another door opens and if you hit a brick wall, then you find another way to get around that wall.

Perhaps research other country programs where you and your hubby would be eligible. I am in an adoption support group locally and one gal recently came back from Vietnam with her daughter. She's going back there to adopt again. Nevertheless, she knows the system pretty well. IF you want her contact information, PM me and I will try to get it from my group leader. She's a very nice gal and I'm sure she will be glad to talk with you.

Allow yourself time to grieve. Just like those who suffered infertility and the loss of the bio child, we needed time to grieve and get over the dream of having a bio child. I am assuming the likelihood of not going to China is somewhat similiar. Be kind to yourself during this hard transition time. This too shall pass...

Amy K, NJ