|
I am so sorry that your kids' birthmom does not see that you were the answer to a prayer! Why do so many of us get the blame instead of the gratitude we deserve? In my sister's drunken rages, she still accuses me of conspiring with CPS to steal her daughter's child.
I hope that "birthmom" will see the light if she is lucky enough to get another chance to be a parent. Besides what she owes you, her kids deserve to know that you will still (and always) be a part of their lives. Sometimes, the case plan for transitioning the kids back to the care of their birthparents will require her to allow the contact that she's threatening to withhold. That might give her a chance to see that it is a good thing for everyone.
Remember, Erica, this is all about preparing yourself emotionally to deal with a loss that might not even come to happen. If she's gone 12 months without showing any real improvement, she's not likely to get the benefit of any doubts. You may be closer than you think to a permanency plan that puts you on the fast-track to adoption -- and then it will be you who decides who the kids will get to see.
DeeCee
__________________
DC MomLADY
Mother to My Sister's Grandchild
|