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Cara,
I have the same difficulty with my mother. When I told her we were adopting, she asked the same ignorant questions. When we received our assignment, we were so excited and my husband and I went to their home to tell them the great news in person. When I prefaced with "We have good news," you know what my mother said? "You're pregnant!" It was such a downer.
When Benjamin arrived and my mother spent time with him, she fell in love.
Now, we are adopting another son from Korea and just received our assignment along with pictures. My mother is so indifferent again! I thought she would be thrilled for us but we only got a response (weeks later) that our new son looks fatter than Benjamin.
It really hurts (still) but I realize it is her problem that she cannot come to terms with our building our family through adoption.
Rosemary
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