[billysmommy]

I didn't want to hijack Amoms other thread, but this sort of goes along with it..........

As adoptive parents in open adoptions, what exactly is our responsibility to our children's siblings? I think we will all agree that it is important to maintain some line of contact for our children, to their biological siblings. But what are the boundaries?
For example, if a subsequent child is placed with another family, do we open our homes and our hearts to them so our children can have that relationship with their sibling?

I am currently facing a dilemma of my own with this. My two children (ages 5 and 2) are half bio siblings, both placed as newborns in our home. Their older brother (now 6) was being raised by their first mom and grandma. We have a very open adoption, and the kids know each other very well and love each other. And though we don't see them all that often, he is avery real presence in their lives. Earlier this year, the older brother was placed (supposedly temporarily) with cousins. He now lives even further away. It has caused a great rift in their family, with the people we are closest to (bmom, bgrandma, bgreatgrandma). The cousins do not seem all that interested in maintaining the amount of contact we once had, though I wouldn't say they have closed my kids off. What do I do? I feel stuck in the middle. Do we allow them to visit - dh is very against that. Do we add them to the list of people we call and email and send photos too? Is it our responsibility to be the ones to reach out to them? I am feeling so conflicted I suppose, because I truly love this little boy as part of our family, and do not want to punish (for lack of a better word) him for all that has gone on in his life - none of which is of his choosing.
But on the other hand, this is the first time in his short life that he has any kind of normalcy, and maybe we should just let him get settled and just enjoy being a kid. He has suffered through so much loss - his brother, then his siter, then his grandfather who was his primary caregiver.
I am so torn.......any suggestions?