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I need advice.
1. If you are an adoptive parent....what are some of the thoughts and feelings my parents are likely to have right now? I need to know so that I can make an informed decision about how to proceed.
2. If you are a birth mother....what is she likely to be thinking and feeling. She has another family now, and obviously does not need me in her life.....however, I am very important to her and she wants some correspondence.
3. If there is anything or issues I am overlooking, please let me know.
My initial thoughts are some e-mail correspondence will be adequate. I'm not sure that I want to meet her, and if I do, I know that I don't want to consider her as family. I would consider her as an important, significant person in my life, but in no way family.
I just need some help. This is all new and quite overwhelming to me right now.
Thanks!
Hello, I'm a Bmom. I have yet to make contact with my children, but I can tell you how I feel in general and maybe other's will post which will be good because I am only one person. I'm here searching because both of my children have reached adulthood recently. What I'm going to say if I am ever allowed contact escapes me. Some of the thoughts that go thru my mind are "will they ever forgive me", "are they healthy and happy", "did I make the right decision", "how do I explain what happened those many years ago" "will I lose my footing if they knock on my door" Mostly because I want them in my life, even though I don't expect them to welcome me with open arms. They have been a part of me their entire life, their birthdays, the ages that are milestones like kindergarden, when they became teens, the age they may have graduated, the day they turned 18, etc. They have always been with me. IMO, the only way your going to know what happens is to make contact. The only way you will know is to stay open minded and see what happens. I wish you the best with my whole heart.
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