[mom2j&d]

I am an adoptive mom of 2 boys who are bio brothers. Our oldest son is 23mths and our little guy is 7mths. We were there for both their births! We have a semi-open adoption meaning we send pics every three months for the first year.

From the moment my oldest son was born I told him about his birth story. I am fortunate enough to have been there for their births so I have all the details that they will ever need to know. I read them the book "Tell me again about the night I was born" by Jamie Lee Curtis. It is a wonderful book that tells the story of one little girls adoption/birth story! Every night as I am putting them to bed I tell them how much I love them and How very blessed we are to have found each other. I tell them how very lucky I am that God chose me to be his mommy! Then I tell them my little strory about how when mommies have babies in their bellies God always peeks in to make sure everything is ok and sometimes he says uh-oh this baby is with the wrong mommy and as soon as that baby is born God makes sure that baby goes home with the mommy he/she was meant to have. This is of course a story for a baby and as they get older they will start asking more questions and I will answer those questions. I have educated my friends and family who are very close to me that if my boys come to them with questions be open and honest and only answer what they ask. I don't want to over whelm them.

I also put together a time capsule for them from their birth. I have the braclets they wore on their arm with there Bmothers name on it. I have the card that went on their incubators (My oldest was jaundice and my youngest was very sick so they spent some time in an incubator) that has bmothers info on it. I also have pics of their bmom holding them in the hospital as well as pics of their paternal grandmother. I have copies of all the letters I've been sending their bmom as well as copies of the pics I attached. I will give this to them when I feel they are ready for it. They are very fortunate that if and when they choose to search I have all they need to do it. THey won't have to look very hard. THey won't have missing info about their birth or about their birth parents because I was there for their birth and have met both thier bparents and have a great relationship with bmom. I don't get to see her or talk to her due to personal problems on her part but in every letter

I'm sorry that I went on and on my point is prepare now for the future. start telling him now by simply telling him about his birth/adoption story. I highly reccomend the Jamie Lee Curtis book and let him come to you with the questions. I hope I 've helped and I'm sorry I rambled!

Good Luck!