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Thank you for all your information you have passed along to us.
I too, saw this first hand. The care workers actually said in front of all 6 children being adopted at the time we adopted DS that one particular child was their "favorite"
Of course you could tell, our DS was very under weight while this child was very filled out - so you could tell he got first dibs on food.
Also, when we were walking out the door on gotcha day the orphanage director ran over to the child - crying - gave his adoptive Mother a picture of the child when he first came to the orphanage. She turned around to me and said - we do not have a picture of your child.... well hello, of course I knew that!!
If only I understood Russian - and heard them talk that way to any child - I would have had to say something (but not until I walked out of that orphanage for the last time)
Children are children. Their hearts can be broken in Russia as well as in the United States or all across the world. Hind sight is always the best sight, had I known - I would have learned Russian and would have been ready to deal with them one on one. Haven't those children been through enough without being blasted by a caretaker?
Oh well, DS is home and hopefully since all that happened to him by the age of 2 1/2 - he will forget - or has already forgotten - how he was spoken to. It only makes me reinforce praising him every time he does good.
Thanks again for everything! Wow you have been so helpful to me!
Susan
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