[kakuehl]

I don't think you would be the only one to be a birth parent and an adoptive parent. Please understand that having other children whether by adoption or "natural" birth may not help you heal. I married less than a year after the adoption of D. My arms were so empty... I just wanted to have another child. What I have discovered is that my two other children did not bring me healing. Sometimes they made me miss D more. Today, I hold D's newborn son and feel the ache of loss!

That said, I don't think there's a problem with being a single mother, as you say you are older and more financially secure. This child would enter a different family! There is a saying that every child is born into a different family. Even if the parents are the same, the second, third or fourth child creates new dynamics - the relationships, the financial situation all change.

Unconditonal love is a great thing to practice - with our children and with our children's aparents (or bparents).

Maybe some others will have more practical answers to your questions!