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One Approach
Dear Maria,
I am a 27 year old adoptee. I am writing to let you know how my adoptive parents approached the subject of telling me.
As with any child, adopted or not, they need age appropriate information. You said that your child is 3 and has not yet started asking about where babies come from.
I believe that most children do start getting curious about this around 4 or 5 years old. Especially if they have siblings.
When I was very young, my mother told me that I was her daughter. She explained that babies come from mommies tummies. Then she told me that even though I was her daughter, I came from another mommies tummy.
As I grew up, she gave me more and more information to explain why and how I ended up coming from another person, but belonging to her.
I know that just reading this, it may sound like a ridiculous thing to say to a child. But, I just wanted to let you know, this is how I found out. I never felt weird or different from other children.
Trust your instincts. I think the most important thing is make sure you talk with any family members that have a lot of interaction with your son.
Make sure he doesn't end up getting conflicting information.
Hope this helps,
Susan
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