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Thanks, Jen. I knew this went on, but to hear it from you just confirms my worst fears. You know, I've often wondered about our DD. She was very shy each time we went to see her, she didn't speak at all, only made doggy barking sounds. The day we picked her up to bring her home, on the way out of the orphanage one of the caretakers pulled her aside (she was barely 2 at the time) and said something to her in Russian. Our DD burst into hysterics, crying and screaming, and we had to carry this bawling baby to the car and get her home. She fell asleep in my arms, still crying, sniffling, and hiccupping in her sleep. I would give anything to know what that caregiver said to her. Was it positive? Did she tell her we'd take her home and eat her? I will never know, but I hope it was good instead of hateful. I know the culture is different there, but honestly, it's horrible to say these things to your own kids, and even worse to say it to children you know are already having issues.
Luckily, as soon as we got to our apartment and got her settled in, our daughter started smiling and laughing, playing and teasing. She knew her American name withing a day, and could understand pretty much anything we asked her to do within a week. After two years, she's still having a few problems with language skills, but she's so very smart and quick, funny and loving. We're so very blessed.
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Kim
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