[Meegan]

I can't tell you what to do, but I can tell you that he will find out eventually and the longer you wait the harder it will be. I found out that my parents adopted me when I was 21 and I know that the way I feel about it would be different if I had grown up knowing the truth. I don't resent my parents for not telling me but I do feel like my entire life has been "marked" by the secret that I didn't know. I think you should tell him early, tell him soon because being scared now is nothing compared to how you'll feel years from now when he does find out somehow. (To give you an example, my dad finally told me and when my mom found out I knew she didn't speak to him for weeks - she wasn't scared she was angry because she didn't want to tell me) Anyway, like I said, I can't tell you what to do, but I think it's best that he knows the truth about himself sooner than later.