[SingleMama2B]

Hi "RussianJen".... Yes, I have heard similar stories, and witness some things while at the Older Children's Orphanage.... My DD was certainly NOT a favorite..... With the Teacher & Caretaker sayiing that... "She is STUPID, and will never amount to ANYTHING... Why would I want such a child??" And this is in front of DD who was 8+ years old!!! With DD home almost 2 years now, she is still not 100% confident in her looks, her ability, her anything. I am always confirming that she is doing wonderfully, she is beautiful, and learning is best thing in the world, and she does it soooo well. Her response... "I love you mom!!"

She is constantly asking if I will Love her forever? It is ashame how some/most of the children are treated.

My Sister adopted a few weeks after I did, and her daughter is basically the same age as my DD. She was from another orphanage, and she was the #1 Child there. Literally.... She had the #1 bed, the #1 toothbrush holder and towel holder, the #1 desk, and the #1 seat in the eating hall. She was the Favorite of the Caretaker, the Teacher, and the Director. They threw her a Good Bye Tea Party with pastries, and everything!!! My DD, had nothing... The Director didn't even stay there when she knew I was coming to get DD. No Tea, No fuss, NOTHING.... Just her Caretaker and the kids. I took all of the children in her group presents, but that was the celebration.

Some may view your words and knowledge as harsh, but that is the way things are over there, especially with older children, especially when they are old enough to understand.

God Bless the Children............