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Adoptive Moms,I am a female adoptee.I felt like a square peg in a round hole starting in late childhood.(around 12?).
I was so lost and spent most of my time feeling enclosed in a glass prison unable to connect to anyone,just watching the world go by.Yet,wonderful adparents.
When I met my parents at 24,it was so "affirming" to see what made me tick!!!! I wanted to immerse myself in it,because it was my core identity.
I did not close my adparents out as extreme as your girls,but I feel this is a struggle of lost identity that some of us feel. ((((((hugs))))))) to you moms and I am so sorry you are in pain as your daughters struggle.
**I wanted to also add that as the years of reunion go on,my perspective has become much less fantasy and more reality.My first family is not quite as flawless and perfect as I dreamed and my adoptive family is where my heart remains;~))
Last edited by lonni : 12-08-2006 at 06:18 AM.
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