[MamaS]

I do know what you mean, and it is frustrating. How much money you have and who you know matters more than whether you will be good parents. A friend of my mother's adopted through her b-i-l who was an obstetrician. He "found" three children in three years for his brother by offering the parents of the unwed teenage bmothers a "deal" -- free obstetrical care if they signed over the newborns to his brother in private adoptions. The implication was that otherwise DFCS might be involved and they would lose the baby AND lose out on the free medical care. It may be illegal, it certainly is immoral and unethical, but they got their three children.
I did it the hard way -- paperwork, waiting, getting referrals, losing referals, and finally, a plane ride to Central America. I wouldn't have it any other way!