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I adopted an older child, a girl, age 6 when she came to us. I wanted an older child because I felt that I could deal with special needs and I had two older biological sons and therefore, didn't want to do the baby thing. My daughter has RAD, ODD, and a host of other issues. It has been harder than anything I have ever done in my life. Whenever I hear someone saying that they want to adopt an older child, my first response is "What???? Do you know what you are getting into?". Especially with international adoptions, emotional issues (such as RAD) will probably not be known. RAD is very scary. So, research it and decide if you think this issue is something you can handle. It isn't for the faint of heart. Being a teacher and caseworker for these children is a whole different ball game than being their parent. RAD children take their anger out on their parents, while being charming to others. Just be sure to research, research, research.
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