Older child, why do people try to talk me out of it?
Hello! I am new to the forums but I have been looking into international adoption for several years. I am waiting for my situation to become more regular before adopting. I had been looking into Guatemala, Peru before that. I am adopting singly. I am 28, which I mention because I don't know if the age difference helps or harms in older child adoptions. I am a teacher and caseworker for 16-21 year olds some of whom have been foster children. I originally thought I wanted a boy under the age of 5. I am considering adopting from EE and potentially a girl under the age of 9.
While everyone has been so supportive of my longstanding wish to adopt, when I suggest adopting an older child they try to warn me off of it. can anyone tell me either what made then decide to adopt an older child? If you've been through it already, can you tell me realistically what I can expect? My reason for wanting a preschool aged child initially was the language problem. I wanted some time for the child to acclimate and learn the new language, plus I know Spanish. But I feel pulled toward the older girl first.
Any thoughts?
Jen
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