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Originally Posted by JGarrick
Did I feel as if I belonged? Well, yes, and no. My foster home was the only home I knew growing up, but I always knew I wasn't theirs. My foster mom in particular had ways both subtle and blunt of reminding me that I wasn't her child. I don't think she ever meant to be unkind, but I did live with frequent reminders that I could be uprooted with no more than a phone call.
What wore me down more than anything, however, was having to constantly explain my situation to everyone.
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Thank you for your response. I am so sorry that your foster parents did not make permanent their relationship with you. I have adopted three from foster care. I know the system is frustrating and adopting children is much harder than they make it sound, but it is worth it.
Additionally, thank you for your comment about having to explain yourself. I adopted two children who are only 16 years younger than me. That means I am constantly getting "the look" when I tell people these are my children not my siblings. The look made me feel like I had to say they were adopted, but when I saw the look on their faces while I was explaining, I decided that no one else needed those explanations. For my third, even when he was in foster care, I simply told people he was mine. I like to help people understand foster care and adoption, but the constant explaining does get wearing.