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Originally Posted by SquirlyGirl
This is such a great thread. I am a soon to be adoptive mom to 2 boys ages 12 & 9.
I have a question that I am struggling with. So far the boys have been calling us Mr D and Mrs. K. I would like for them to start calling us mom and dad, but I want to be sensative to their feelings for their mom and dad. To be fair I haven't brought it up to them yet, but am trying to figure out how to bring it up.
We know that they want to keep their last names when we finalize, I am hoping that we can convince them to hyphante their last names.
Did you feel it a betrayal of calling your adoptive parents "mom" and "dad"? Should we suggest alternatives? If so, like what, ma and pa? I really don't like ma.
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Congratulations SG. Of course I'm not fostered or adopted, so I'm probably no help at all but I'm wondering why they don't want to call you "mom" or dh "dad" (or some form of it). You mentioned they don't want to change their last names either. Are they against the adoption? I think I'd probably get some family counseling on this.
I hope others will share their wisdom on this one.