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I'm sorry that you're going through this. We sweated it out with some of my dh's extended family members (grandpa was in WWII in the pacific theater and dh's uncle served in Korea during the war). They were fine once they saw our son.
We also had issues when we told one of dh's grandmothers about us adopting. She told me in front of the family that "oh my friend down the street had tried for years and after they went on a waiting list...once on that list she got pregnant right away". I stopped that one in its tracks...I'm physically not able to get pregnant without MAJOR help.
Over the Thanksgiving Day weekend, I had two different conversations about adoption. One was with a friend of dh's family and they asked similar questions (why did you adopt from Korea? why not africa or Eastern Europe or South America?? why didn't you adopt domestically?? How much does it cost to adopt domestically? From Korea?)...the questions started out innocent enough but in the end, they were questioning why Korea. I was digusted by this and left the room.
The second conversation was a much more pleasant one with dh's 3rd cousin and his girlfriend. They were genuinely interestd in adoption and our adoption story.
I found some people were interested in our adoption story and others who just don't understand adoption and/or adopting from Korea at all. Unless they have been in our place, they may not completely understand our decisions.
Jen
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