[Opting4Adopting]

Hi all,
It's been a while since I posted here but I have been reading posts.

After 6 years it hit me last night that I've not had a fathers day card from Alisha.

I get a christmas card in about feb/march but never had a fathers day card.

Is this what adopted children are told not to do? alright she is only 6.5 and can't exactly go to the shops and buy one to post, but is it not the resonsibilty of the new adopted mother to do this.

Or is this a taboo subject that adopted children cannot do?

Or am I to be punished for something I did not do for the rest of my life.

It's been awhile since you first posted this, but I just ran across this and felt like commenting.

For us, Father's Day is for our DS' Daddy...the man that has gotten up with him at all hours of the night, the man that changes his poopy diapers, gives him a bath, holds his hand while walking outside and helps him build tents out of the diningroom table...this man did not pass onto him his genes, but passes on his knowledge, love, guidance and time to our DS daily.

We acknowledge our DS' birthfather on the day before Father's Day, just as we acknowledge his birthmother on the day before Mother's Day.

I'm surprised that you are amazed that you have not gotten a Father's Day card from your birthdaughter after it took you years to even make contact with her and hopefully apologized for your part in her painful early life. Perhaps some day, when she's older and her parents have instilled in her the self-confidence and forgiveness she will need to grow past the rough start she had, she may acknowledge you with the love that you are hoping for.

Kat