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Loryn, my DD is biracial. I specifically said that I was open to a biracial child and not a fully AA child. I have to say that that may be viewed as "racist," but my best friend is biracial (and another good friend of mine is biracial) so I felt that would be helpful to me and to any child I raised in terms of questions I could ask, mentoring, etc.
I am very much like you. I personally don't think about skin color very much, etc. But I have started to realize that it IS important to recognize that your whole family will be a family "of color," etc. and that you have to prepare your other kids for that, etc. As much as I am a "color-blind" advocate, I do realize that kids who are, e.g., biracial or AA, etc., need to realize how beautiful their heritage, skin color, etc. is.
Re: hair. That's one of the most "talked about" topics on transracial adopts as I can tell. I can say that DD had very little hair, then straight hair, and now has "shirley temple" curls. Even thought they are soft, I have to "manage" them with detangler, etc. Your child could have very fine hair or tighter curls, etc....Believe me, you will figure out how to care for it.
RE: skin color. I do not think anyone should ever think that their child will be "darker," "lighter," etc. if they choose to adopt a biracial or AA child. I HAVE read that a child who is AA/CC can never be darker than the AA parent, but I am not sure if that is true. The reality is (I know you are new to the process), you have to be prepared if you are adopting a biracial child that that child will have darker skin than you, have hair different than yours, etc...
Anyway, I also think it is imporant to ask all the qs you want! GOOD LUCK!
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