For these reasons, we actually didn't tell anyone that we were adopting Dennis until we were leaving for our pick-up trip. With Tommy, we told everyone, because they wouldn't dare question adopting from Russia. You really didn't have that option though.
Maybe the thing to do now is to stop trying to convince other people. If they ask why you'd want to start over again, ask, "Would you ask that question if I were pregnant? This is no less of a chance I'd back out of this adoption than if I were." To "Why not adopt domestically?", Try, "Doesn't every child deserve a home?" If they are not trying to be sensitive with you, don't waste your energy trying to convince them. Hopefully, their questions will be answered when they see the love that your new little one brings to your family.
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Katrina, PROUD MOMMY OF 3!!!!!!
Mom to two boys, 8 and 5, adopted from Moscow, and
Mom to a 6 year old girl, adopted from Seoul.
Special needs mommy with experience with FAS, dyslexia, ADD, FAE, CP/spastic quadriplegia, global developmental delay, and so in love with my kids it hurts!