[cara620]

I am posting I guess because I have very few people in my life that "get" why we are adopting..and adopting internationally. And I am hoping you all may be able to help me come to terms with this fact.

When we started this process, and started telling people about it..they were all pretty interested (except my mom) and they all asked great questions and I thought I made myself pretty clear about why we are adopting and why we chose Korea over other options. And they gave me all the indications that they understood. But now as time has gone on the same questions keep coming up from the same people. "Are you sure you want to start all over again with a baby?"..."Why not adopt domesticlly?".."you have a boy and a girl why do you want another?" And I don't really mind telling people about what we are doing and why..I just hate trying to "convince" my family. My friends seem to be the most understanding and excited for us...but our family is constantly questioning us. And general non-support..the other day..(my mil lives with us so she has to have fingerprints too) I had to take my mil to get her fingerprints taken for the 3rd time...and at the last minute she wanted to try to change the appointment...and then constantly complained about having to do it now and why can't we wait until after Christmas and why dose she have to do it over and over again. I just try to keep my mouth shut and say these are just things we have to do. But why can't she understand that I want my baby and if they told me that I and my family need to spend the night on our heads..I would do it. And I would do it the day they told me too.

I try to be open with them, with out hurting thier feelings. I have an online adoption journal so they can get more insight into what is going on and how we are feeling about it. I don't really think there is much more I can do..but I guess it would be nice to know if any of you have run in to the same issue in your family.