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Originally Posted by lookingforward
Hi Blessedbybug,
I'm new to all of this but just had a question about registration and your choice to register Roo. You decided to register Roo and have contact with the first family but not the band. How did you know that this would work out? Was this band one of those that doesn't tend to get too involved? Did you determine ahead of time whether the band had a history of taking an interest in adoptions of band members children? If so how did you determine this? If you had determined that they might want to be involved in raising your child would you have waited until Roo was eighteen to register him? Sorry for the long string of questions, just trying to make some difficult decisions but would like to do what is best for the child while trying to keep a connection to her culture.
Thanks.
Lookingforward
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THere are no guarantees in any of this however this band is not one known to get involved in these situations when children are not born on the reserve. DS's firstmother has not had contact with the band to which she is connected since early toddlerhood. She has not lived on a native reserve (hers or any other) since that time. She did not give birth to our son on a native reserve. And, she did not consult band members about placing this child with us nor expressed any interest in their involvement . In all those decisions, she distanced herself from the band. Not only that, but she has a child she is parenting and the band has no relationship with this child. Based on all of this, we felt that we were comfortable with this decision.