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Originally Posted by blessedbybug
If the birthmom is registed, the child CAN also be, but doesn't have to be. It is your choice. We chose to because it was important to Roo's first mom that he is. And it is important to us that we preserve and celebrate his aboriginal heritage.
If I were you, I would MAKE SURE that CFS knows you are interested and willing to consider placement of a child with aboriginal heritage. This was a very specific part of the conversation in both our home studies. Even though we stated we were interested in mixed ethnicity, they specifically asked us about aboriginal history because it does have implication especially if the child is of full heritage. There are things to consider regarding band/tribal involvement that you need to be fully aware of. Although we were interested in contact with first family, we have many concerns about the band's interest in our child. From what we understand, some bands have great interest in how a child from their community is raised in all areas. We did not want to have to consult them regarding our parenting choices, esp when it comes to faith and education. I would make sure you have a specific conversation with your SW or someone who deals with these situations. But usually, children available for adoption to non-aboriginal families are ones that do not have a strong connection to the band. But it is definitely a question to be clarified.
Are you looking at a specific child??? If so, then you should be able to get some clear answers. Do they have a band number? What band are they with? Etc. If you are initerested in general, you can state you are interested in a "non-status Indian" which means that they most generally do not have band contact. That is what my DD is considered as her first mom has not been associated with her band since toddlerhood.
HTH... I tend to go on and on, sorry... that's just me! Hope it works out for you!!!
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Hi Blessedbybug,
I'm new to all of this but just had a question about registration and your choice to register Roo. You decided to register Roo and have contact with the first family but not the band. How did you know that this would work out? Was this band one of those that doesn't tend to get too involved? Did you determine ahead of time whether the band had a history of taking an interest in adoptions of band members children? If so how did you determine this? If you had determined that they might want to be involved in raising your child would you have waited until Roo was eighteen to register him? Sorry for the long string of questions, just trying to make some difficult decisions but would like to do what is best for the child while trying to keep a connection to her culture.
Thanks.
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