|
Congatulations on the potential match!
Perhaps you can request a semi-open relationship for the future with no direct contact, but to go only through the agency. At least you would have the option of contacting each other if an emergecy arises.
This is what we have, and while our son's birthmom doesn't contact us, I regularly send updates and photos to the agency for her. And in one emergency case, our agency was able to get in touch w/ her and ask her a medical question for us. That was very helpful.
And it keeps the door open for future contact that might be more than what it is now. I'm still hoping that at some point we might hear from our son's birthmom. And we know when he turns a certain age, he'll have access to more info than we have now, in case he has questions.
__________________
StorkWatcher
QUOTE: "Just like a woman who gives birth forgets the pain due to the overwhelming joy when she holds the baby, an adoptive mom also experiences that same joy when she holds her child for the first time." - Kat-L, forum member
|