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Sadie, that is a big problem with longer periods (including periods to revoke), I think. Presumably the "intended" a parents could be with the baby or he or she could be with the birth parents or I suppose some kind of temporary foster care situation. One of the problems is when a child is adopted out of state...it is really tough (I have heard) for the a parents to wait for the interstate compact stuff...I can't imagine living in a hotel room for 30 days, etc.
I think one of the reasons I support longer periods for the TPR but not "revocation" periods is that I really think for the child's sake (and of course the a parents sake) there should be as much certainty as possible (but still allowing birth parents some time after birth).
Jenna, I think it is sad if birth parents or adoptees feel that they get less respect than a vacuum cleaner. I know personally I have great respect for my DD's birth parents and my DH and DD as adoptees. I would be interested to know how adoptees feel about this issue...I know for my DH, he feels very strongly that decisions (as tough as they are) should be made as quickly after birth as possible for the child's sake. (He was in foster care for some months after he was born, and I think he wishes that he had spent that time with his a parents). Of course, I'm sure as in all situations there would be a variety of opinions.
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