[XyloGal]

Thank you, all, for your comments and feedback. I feel I have some explaning to do in reference to some of the comments:

Adoption DID come up before we were married, but only in that DH knew I wanted to explore that option, and we didn't ever discuss it thoroughly. Talking about hypothetical children when you're just out of college and can't even imagine having a child at the time, is different, naive as it may be, than the real consideration of ACTUAL children that WE will be raise and have for the rest of our lives. When you're not ready to raise children yet, then just saying, "Yeah kids, sounds good to me, we'll talk about it later," is easy to do.

Also, although I have always felt that I wanted to adopt, I have NOT always felt so opposed to giving birth to a child. Only over the past few years have I really started to think seriously about having children and what, really, being pregnant and giving birth would mean for me. Genetic background does have a small part in my reasoning for not wanting to give birth (cancer, alcoholism, diabetes, and some other serious negative traits run in our families). While that may not be a very good reason in some people's view to not have children, since I ALREADY wanted to adopt, it was all the more reason for me to want to do ONLY that.

I would NEVER force my husband into adopting if he truly did not want to, and I am not 100% opposed to having biological children either. I will definitely take the advice and give us both more time to think about and discuss our feelings.

Whatever we choose, I would never want to have a child, through birth or adoption, unless my husband and I were in complete agreement going into it. This has a lot to do with why we're talking about it now, a few years before we want to start our family. If we both keep an open mind and are honest with each other, I'm sure we can come to agreement.

Thanks again!