[Niclayson]

On the returning to work issue, I had planned to be home at least 2 months...I ended up home full-time for 3 months and then I decided to return to work part-time evenings only. Trey was such a mess, I was afraid to leave him any more than this. To be honest, this did NOT go well even though he was only home one hour alone with my 14 year old before DH arrived home. His acting out behavior was much worse on the days I worked.

In August, I returned to college full-time for my PhD. The timing was horrible but I have been given the opportunity to earn my degree for FREE...so I thought I'd try. I started Trey in daycare gradually. At first for a few hours only 2 days a week and increased it gradually. He really has adjusted well now and loves daycare. But I have to say I was basically home with him for 5 months and the first month of daycare adjusting sucked....with many tears on both sides.

If you have to work, you have to work. Try to get as much time off as possible. And if you work, practice attachment parenting ALL the time when home. Spend lots of time at home and limit your baby's world. Forget the housework, do the grocery shopping after your child goes to sleep, get down and play with the baby all evening, bathe with them, hold them as much as possible. Weekends should be the same way until fully bonded. You are going to be exhausted but it will be worth it.

And don't worry too much about this...just be prepared. Not all babies have attachment issues.