[SchmennaLeigh]

I never wanted a thank you. To me, the child was not a transaction to me that needed a thank you note. Instead, watching J&D do right by the Munchkin and raise her so extremely well has been all the thank you I have needed.

That said, even with how wonderful J &D are, I never "puts this behind me." The placement of my child will always be with me, in some form or fashion. A note or card won't magically take away that fact and expecting it to do so could set you up for failure. Sending a note or card is fine. But realize that she is allowed to feel her emotions. They are so very real.