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Thanks to all of you for your responses. She has mentioned counseling before, I think it would be a great idea but I think finances are the issue there. I agree that my gratitude should not be an ever-present thing, and I certainly want to avoid that. I do have a friend who brought up the two-way street bit, that she should be grateful to me as well, but it does seem as though she is trying to put this all on me to avoid dealing with her own part. She is my sister and I love her, and I want us to have a normal relationship but it is difficult with all this hanging over our heads, it is a constant strain to where I don't even want to see her sometimes. I agree that people do need to check on her and ask her how she's doing, but I am not sure that I am the best person for that. I think I am too close to the whole situation, and if she sees me as the source of her pain then I don't think there is much I can do to comfort her.
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