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Xylogal, I applaud the fact that you are totally excited about building your family thru adoption. And while I really wanted to have a bio child with my DH, I also never really had this great yearning to be pg (I know some people do, mine was more of a "oh, i"d love to see what a kid of DH and I looked/acted like.").
That said, I think if having a bio child is important to your DH, you really should explore the reasons why with him. I think not having a bio child can be a loss, and he probably views it that way. Frankly, I would have been a little shocked if DH said he preferred to adopt instead of try to get pg....in other words, I think his reaction is totally normal.
That said, I can say that my DH (who also really wanted a bio kid and he is a v. happy adult adoptee, ironically) has fully embraced adoption and loves our DD with a passion that is unbelievable to me. Maybe if DH could talk to other adoptive dads, etc. you two may get on the same page (obviously, it is important that you be on the same page).
Good luck to you!
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