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Heather, I have yet to meet anyone who is not overwhelmed by the adoption process so it is totally normal!
I remember that after we were matched with DD, I decided that I needed to read (from start to finish) a book called, "Talking to Young Children about Adoption." I really should have been reading some of those newborn books, cuz I had no freaking idea how to deal with a newborn but I thought it was important that I "master" adoption (haha!). And I really hadn't given much thought to the fact that DD was going to be biracial. Recently, I started reading all this stuff about transracial families and then started to feel a little overwhelmed again (like I needed to master these issues today, yet they will be lifelong issues)!
The reality is is that there are "issues" with adoption and there are "issues" with raising children of a different race, but in my experience (to date) it is simply really the day to day parenting joys and challenges that are the focus of my life.
Please know that you are completely NORMAL, and use all your support systems (including these boards). Good luck to you!
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