[sugarbabysmommy]

Maybe she's feeling forgotten about, looked over. Does anyone ask her how's she doing, is she ok? Maybe she feels that her pain is not being appreciated, maybe by appreciated she means acknowledged. She is your sister, so if she had placed her child with someone else would you ask her how's she's doing, check in with her about her grief? If she had had a different loss in her life would you check in with her about how's she's doing. At times during the beginning of our adoption I could hear my child's bio mother struggle with feeling like no one thought it was very hard for her, she wanted her pain to be acknowledged and couldn't stand that people acted like it was no big deal. I was acknowledging it, checking in with her, but there were other key people in her life who were not.

Edited to add, I agree with BugnBearsMom about not thanking someone for another human being. If anything we were a gift to babe, our family was formed because of them and I am grateful for that every day, grateful to see babe's shining face, but that's not the same as saying thank you for giving me your kid to raise.