[OnTheJourney]

I remember playing house as a child, my childern were adopted. Not sure why but I have always known that is how my family would grow, so it has always been my first choice and I have never had a desire to get pg. Like Redbonec, we tried to conceive 'cause it seemed 'easier' and 'what you were supposed to do'. After only two years we discovered we could not conceive without intervention. This was not and option for me. My DH wanted to do everything he could to 'have his own childern' and you cannot persue adoption unless you are both 100% on board. I gave him time, encouraged him to talk about his fears and concerns, we went to an adoption seminar, and did some reading. After a few months he said let's do it. He wanted it as much as I.
Now, our DS is 2 and 1/2 months old, and DH is so in love with that little guy. He's already excited about the next one and he will tell you DS is 'his own baby'.
For us, the adoption process has strenghted our relationship. I think it is normal for one person to have a different opinion in the beginning. But you have to both be 100% committed to continue. I don't think a family is supposed to be formed any particular way. If you choose adoption, thats great. My advice is only educate and prepare yourself, it can be very difficult and painful at times. And be sure of your reasons for choosing this path. JMO