[CBsMommy]

I adopted the biological son of my husband when he was just 17 months old. His birth mother died shortly after he was born, so he has no memory of her and has memories of me from the very beginning. Thus far, we have raised our son as if he is biologically both of ours and all he knows is we are "mommy" and "daddy". There has not been any talk or mentioning of a birth mother, etc. However, our son does have casual contact with his birth grandfather who he simply knows as Papaw. Our son is now 3 years old and we see him becoming more inquisitive about pictures and life things in general. We feel that in the next year or so we will need to introduce the idea that he did not actually grow in mommy's tummy, etc. We feel this is getting especially close because we plan to have a biological child of our own which, of course, will beg a lot of questions for our son. All of the adoption materials I read are so different from our scenario because our son is biologically my husband's and our son does have some contact with the birth family. We just feel we have a really unique situation amd none of the advise I read seems quite right. Going forward, we of course plan to be honest with him, but we then plan to continue to raise him as ours, without building some extensive post-mortem relationship with his birth mother. We will be open and honest, but not harp on it. Has anyone gone through something similar? I feel so alone and need help about how to deal with this, what to say to our son, etc.