Yes, I was just discussing this with my friend the other day!
My husband is a teacher and a coach, so during his basketball season now, he gets home around 6 p.m. after practices, and on game nights, like tonight, after I've gone to bed. But, on regular nights when he comes home around 6, he spends time with our daughter, and, even though she goes to bed around 7:30, we eat together but still don't do much after that. Sadly, I've noticed that one of us gets on the computer, and the other gravitates to the tv. I think it is just us winding down after the day, but we are still not together.
Last Friday, we actually watched a movie we had purchased two months ago!
The best time we find to talk is if we are riding in the car together.
My husband probably thought adoptive parents didn't have to wait several weeks after the birth for renewed "you know what." But, sleep deprivation is sleep deprivation no matter what.
I will say though, that my husband does great things when he is not here to keep my spirits up, and just stay connected. He calls each day, occasionally sends me an email complimenting me, and always kisses me first thing when he gets home. He has not complained about anything, has done quite a bit of housework, has not complained when I mess it back up, and has taken the brunt of my frustration on some days.
I would really like to do a date night. We need something where it is just us with no other distractions, and I don't mean our daughter is the distraction. I mean that when we are home, there is always something to do other than just sit and be together--laundry, yardwork, tv, computer, dishes, etc.
As I read other responses, I see that dates don't have to be often, once a month is good.
Well, back to your original post, parenting definitly has put a new dimension in our relationship, I'm just not exactly sure what it is!
