[Stormster]

Hi everyone, this is my first time posting. We are trying the private adoption route ...advertising etc. and are entering our fifth month. I do believe we will eventually find our child but we are in a very difficult situation with a birth mother who pursued adoption before letting the boyfriend know. So after getting so close, getting to know the family (she lives with her Grandparents and doesn't work but they do), loving the family, the birth mother is a beautiful sweet girl (who has an 8 month old and is due late January) and getting picked to adopt the child....the father who has been in and out of jail, is 29 and has no means of support, but does have contact with the other baby though he doesn't pay child support....is vetoing the whole thing! There is still a tiny bit of hope that someone will talk some sense into him but I don't think so...We worked so hard, drove so far to meet them, spent the day (our consultant said it's unusual but said it's fine because they live in the next state and it might work out) The Aunt calls me every day with updates etc...our profile isn't online yet so when they asked for the profile i stayed up all night making one which was literally a piece of our heart and overnighted it etc. etc. I'm sure this is not a lot to some of you but it was intense and I got excited. And now I wish my lawyer and consultant would say forget it but all they say is keep at it and if it works out great. But i'm attached to THIS situation and feel so connected ....I don't know if I could put so much into it again! Any words of hope and support would be greatly appreciated. I feel hopeless and disappointed. Thanks,Gwenn PS My consultant said it' snot over until the baby is born! But it's 72 hours in their state so do we wait while the child is at home??? Will they ever give up a baby once they've taken her home? This a very difficult situation.