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I am a mom to both a bio and adoptive child. I used to wonder the same thing about my beautiful daughter. Would she consider me her real mother? Would she abandon me? Would she think of me any different as she grows up?
My daughter is only 2 years old. But let me tell you this. I AM my daughter's real mother. Yes, she has a birthmom (who I talk to her about). But the woman who she calls mommy and is bonded with is me.
When you are raising an adopted child (especially when they are with you since birth) they are your REAL children. I would never in a million years even think to call my daughter my "adopted daughter".
I can also tell you that if the the bond between mother and child is true and strong, nothing will ever break it.
If my daughter ever wants to spend time with birthfamily during holidays (when she is grown up), that's something I will have to deal with at the time.
But our relationship will always be open, strong and bonded. After all, I am her real mother.
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