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I am a birthmom and I had the date of my son's birthday off by three days. It was so traumatic for me, I had a great fear that something was wrong with him and no one was telling me. I was a little older too, but circumstances in regard to my family and the birth father's family put me in that terrible situation. I had to take anti-depressants at that time, and had a very rough time for awhile. I somehow implanted the date three days later, which was the date I actually signed the papers to have him placed. My birthson and I have found each other, and I can honestly tell you, I have a very deep love for him, and am so grateful for having him in my life. I feel my life is now complete for the first time in 35 years (he is 35). I love him every bit as much as my other two children, and I fully intend to give him every benefit I give my other two children from now on. I am working on the feeling I have that I have to make these years up to him, even though intellectually I know he had a very good life and has two very wonderful adoptive parents. A mother is a mother always, even if she isn't with her birth child. The spiritual ties are always there. It is possible to get mixed up on the date. Stress and pain can do strange things to a person's mind. Hope this helps.
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