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He was 33 when we finally reunited. He has told me that had I found him at 18 or 25 he would have not been as open to having a relationship with me.
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My son was the exact same age as yours Kathy, and he said the same thing too. It wasn't until he was at the age where medical history was important, and knowing who his birthparents were had become a "must do". And I hear the same from many birthmothers with adult sons. They need to prove themselves, before looking for the missing pieces in their lives. Maybe to prove that adoption wasn't something that hampered them, and maybe because they didn't want to upset adoptive parents while they were under their roof or their control. At 33 a young man is pretty independant and can make his own choices without having to consider the others who make up his "immediate family".
joshsmom - I understand how you want it all to happen .....NOW!!! But like 18 years ago, it is out of your control. You need to wait. It sucks!!! But there's very little you can change. At least you know him, have met him, and he knows where to find you when he is ready.
Ann