I am so sorry that your boy was told he was adopted at the age of 8. Holding back information of a child having biological parents is never the answer. If our adoption goes through..and we are praying. Our child will know he has birth parents and adoptive parents...never, ever will we lie to him. He will also know of the love all of us have for him. Years back I think couples hid the fact a child was adopted, but times have changed. It seems that nurturing a child and making this adoption as part of his growing up process with books on adoption, and letting him know adoption is a loving choice- I will always hold such a special place in my heart for his birth mom because she blessed us more then words could ever say!! And hopefully if this adoption goes through- We will be more then happy to lead him straight to his birth mom!! If not for her we could never have such a miracle in our lives...One more thing - thank you for being a good birth mom- I am just so sorry your experience has not been a good one...hopefully your son will realize the love you have for him-One thing the adoptive parents cannot change is the fact you are his birth mom-always have been and always will be!!! God Bless
