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Hi,
My husband and I are flying to Phoenix to meet a wonderful pregnant woman who is considering relinquishing. She has two sons already and is only considering relinquishing this third. She wants a very open adoption. At first we were uncomfortable with the idea, but now, after many email exchanges, I feel like I know her and we both really like her and think we can make her part of our life, in order for the child to have what is best> Of course I struggle with the feelings of jealousy and everything you point out above...it is kind of scary and my fears have been perfectly expressed by you. I always have a deep feeling for the birthmother's loss and pain of separation. Reading your beautiful words was oddly soothing because I know it is the truth and you are incredibly strong and honest not only to realize these things, but to speak openly of them and the pain and the tear of the 'knife'....Thank you for your beautiful honesty and I hope your child's life is filled with more love than pain of separation. As it is said, the ultimate adoption scenario is "love doubled, not divided"...
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