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Originally Posted by Shadowfaerie
I have no problem at all pursuing an open adoption, but this idea that we won't be considered the parents to our child when he or she grows up is a constant worry to me.
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I know that adoptees have different experiences, but I can tell you that in MY life the family that I "do holidays with" is my afamily. Of course, I have just re-connected with my birthfamily, and who knows how things will go ten years from now, but I will NEVER stop going to thanksgiving dinner at my (a)Moms. Hey, you could always have your adult children and the birthparents invited to the holidays with you, why not?!
I commend you for researching open adoption thoroughly so that you will be prepared and comfortable with it if that is how you choose to make your family. Your adopted child's roots will be important to him/her, but of course so will you!