Dawn~
I am an adult adoptee and I am impressed by your concern and tenderness. Just being able to vocalize and recognize these worries and begin to try to take the right steps for you and your child tells me you are on the right track. You will do great!
Will your achild when they are grown want to spend holidays with their bparents? Who knows. But I do know you will be the one they are spending holidays with for the next several years. You will be the person making memories of family and starting traditions that make the holidays special. Unless your relationship suffers incredible setbacks I think you're holiday assured. I try to call, or stop for a quick hello or spend some time Christmas Eve with my bparents.
I think as far as being a grandparent goes it's the same. You will be the real parent. You will be the real grandparent. There is a connection to your birthparents. But you will be the day to day person who takes care and loves them. You will be their memories.
You cannot replace that with any birth parent no matter how good that relationship becomes.
Spend your time showing your love to this lucky baby. Spend time making them fell treasured and wanted and important. They will want the same for their children- to know you and how loving you are.
Wishing you the Best
Amy
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