[swanzie]

I personally think that some of these stories are just that - stories. It is a way for the fk to avoid the truth - kind of a fantasy land - like someday their mom is going to come and get them and they are going to live in a castle have a horse and life happily ever after. My little one has been telling kids at school her bmom is dead. Shocked the crap out of me - as this has never been talked about at home - just how much she loves her and that she wants the best and that my fd can write to her anytime she wants. But this is what she is telling her little friends. I guess it is a way to cope.

i think you have a pretty good plan - I think getting to know the fp's is a good way to find out what is really going on.