Quote:
|
Originally Posted by Shadowfaerie
I'm posting to adult adoptees to see how you feel about your adopted parents vs. your birthparents when it comes to holiday get-togethers and who is your own children's grandparents?
|
I am an adoptee who just recently got in contact with my birth grandparents (b-mom wants no contact now). I have grown up in a wonderful home where my parents were always open about my adoption, my mom has even helped me search as I got older.
I have thought about this question since the holidays are just around the corner and I have come to the conclusion that I will spend them as I have always done in the past and that is with my a-family. My birth grandparents understand too. In fact we have planned our first f2f for the spring. Now I will get them something for Christmas and I will make sure that I call them.
I want to add that I have always considered my a-mom to be my mom. However the other day we were discussing my b-grandparents and she told me that I was lucky to have grandparents now because all of my a-grandparents have passed away. So I do consider them my grandparents and my children's great grandparents. I am glad that my mom feels the same way too.
IMO just be honest with your child and love them with all your heart.