[gweeds99]

Hello everyone.

My baby girl is 10 weeks old now, and she's very healthy. The mother and I broke up before I knew she was pregnant and we have a civil relationship now. I have been working full time and she has been taking care of our little girl. She lives with her mom, I live with my parents. We are both in our mid 20s.

Now... I have a few complaints to make, and I feel I can't really talk to anyone around me about them, because of various reactions and one sided advice they'd give.

Our girl was born 10 weeks ago, and the mother and I decided to sign a volentary paternaty forum... although that has yet to happen. I suggested a paternaty test when i found out, but she flipped out. I do trust her, and I know the baby is mine.

Anyway, I haven't signed the forum yet. So I'm not the "legal" father of my baby. The mother keeps ***** footing around it, saying we'll get to it eventually.

Okay... and now I am working full time. She takes care of our daughter full time. I have been giving her 500 dollars a month since the baby was born. She has just recently asked for more... but Im at my limit. I could get another job I suppose...

Oh, by the way, we haven't gone through the court system. We've been trying to work it out ourselves... but I feel its totally one sided. My extended family hasn't met the baby, my parents have only seen her a hand full of times. And even I get to see her maybe once a week. I feel like if I say something or demand a change, she'll never let me see her.


So I guess all I want is my family and myself to have a bigger part in her life... considering I'm giving double what she'd get if we were on child support.

Any suggestions how I should fix this? Or what I should say to the mother? Should I go through the courts? Should I even get a paternaty test this late in the game?

I've read that if you sign the voluntary paternaty forum, you don't really have all the legal rights you would have if you got a paternaty test.

Any info would be great.

Thanks