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Congratulations on being so close to a referral!
Unfortunately, a lot of people do view the beginning of the adoption process like they view the "trying to get pregnant" process. There's no child yet, there's no due date (although there may be an estimate that ranges in the months), etc.
Once there is a real child to think about -in pregnancy there's a belly and sonogram pictures, in adoption there are referral pictures and a name - the attitude of some people often improves.
And then once the children are home it often improves even more.
Of course it's not a guarantee. There will always be people who simply don't give any attention to the adoption process or the adopted child. There are those who are prejudiced against Africans (or African-Americans) or who believe you "should" have adopted from somewhere else.
It may or may not continue after your children are home. Some adopted children are accepted with open arms. Other adopted children don't even get baby showers or have anyone show up at the "welcome home" party or first birthday. It really varies, and depends mostly on the adults involved.
I'm sorry you're going through this. Try to surround yourself with supportive, happy people and not be concerned with the rest.
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